Week 51

Fear Not

When I am afraid, I will trust in you.  In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I will not be afraid. Psalm 56:3-4

A good friend of my dad just buried his 48 year old wife. And I thought to myself, I have no idea when will be the last time I see a certain loved one. It was such a scary thought to me. I got what some people might call a small panic attack! Life is so full of surprises (good and bad) that sometimes we’re not prepared for them. As I was dwelling on this fear of losing someone close to me, (especially my spouse or my child) I realized WHAT AM I DOING?! God does not want us living in fear! He wants us to live each day praising Him, rather than be thinking of what could terrible thing could possibly happen today.

Sometimes, when you look around at all the pain and grief, it’s hard not to panic. Especially if you’re one that follows the world news, then panic can really settle in. Forget world news! Sometimes the people who are close by are suffering just as much! Or better yet, you are the one who is going through an extremely tough time. However, that is why we have Jesus in our lives! He is the only one who can give comfort and hope in the midst of all the suffering. Sometimes, we forget just how powerful His love is for us and how much He really cares about our heartaches. The best part about having Jesus, is that we can live each day without fear! Living in prayer, close to God, we can put fear behind us. And to me, that was a comforting thought after panicking as to what horrible event could happen in the future!

Him+Her Talk

What are your “fears”? Pray together that God helps you comfort your fears.


Week 50

There is a Time

There is a time for everything… a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance… Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4

Then…there is a time to put down our cell phones, laptops, ipads, ipods. To disconnect and be there completely for our spouses (and children). I catch myself with my eyes fixated on my screen of whatever I’m using at the time, instead of my family who actually needs my attention.

We heard it a million times that we should spend time with our loved ones instead of our devices. But seriously, we know how TRUE is it, yet we sometimes still don’t follow through. Our phone is with us at the dinner table. Our iPad is with us while we’re playing a board game, etc, etc.

I’m not that old, but I remember a time when we weren’t so “technologized”. It was a wonderful time! Children played outside and used their imaginations with their toys. Teenagers spent time socializing and enjoying their youth. Adults talked with their eyes fixed on each other.

Nowadays, children are watching cartoons all day long. playing video games, and finding games on their parents’ iPad. The youth is sitting beside each other, but each on their phone, engrossed in whatever is so interesting. And the adults…well, we all know what we do in our spare time.

Not to say there were absolutely no distractions, but be honest with yourself, we were NOT so glued to technology as we are now. There is a time for everything. A time to be using our technology and a time to enjoy our lives with the people we love.

Him+Her Weekly Goal

Keep track of my how much free time you spend with technology and how much quality time you spend with loved your one(s). Compare the two.



Week 49

Nor Rags, Nor Riches

Give me neither poverty nor riches. Proverbs 30:8

Not going to lie, but sometimes (if not always) we want too much. We want to earn lots of money, be rich (and famous even?). However, Agur, son of Jakeh in Proverbs asks God to not give him any riches. He doesn’t ask for poverty either, but really, he doesn’t want to be rich?

What was wrong with this man? Everyone wants to have plenty of wealth! Though, this guy is not the only one who believes wealth does not brings happiness. We see other men in Scripture condemn wealth: Author of Ecclesiastes and Paul among them. Of course, Jesus taught on wealth as well. He said, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven.” Matthew 6:19-20

Then again, we can have two complete opposite sides to the spectrum. We have those who spend all their time and energy on acquiring wealth. That is their goal in life. And if wealth becomes more important than God, then we know that is a sin. On the other hand, being lazy was never praised by the Lord or humans. God never says we can just sit and do nothing all life long. He told Adam that the man is going to work hard to earn his daily bread.

So? What do we do?

We work; we do our best. But if wealth becomes more of a priority than serving God, then there just might be a problem with that.

Him+Her Talk

Has acquiring earthly wealth become #1 priority in your relationship? Be honest, because God knows our hearts.



Week 48

A Glimpse of True Love

May the Lord make your love increase and overflow for each other and for everyone else 1 Thessalonians 3:12

They sometimes drive us crazy! Yes, really crazy! But on the other hand, they are absolutely the best people God has sent into our lives. If you haven’t guessed it already, I am most definitely talking about family. Spouses, children, parents, brothers, and sisters. They are the people you love the most and hate the most. Fight the most, and make up with the most.

Through our family, God molds us into the people He wants us to be. He wants to teach us patience,






True Love.

Through these special people, God wants to show us a glimpse of His amazing love. Yet, the love of even the closest person doesn’t come close to God’s perfect love. However, He wants us to strive to perfect our love for others by becoming closer to Him. The more we rely on God to supply us with the power to love others (especially our families), the more perfect our love will become. Because honestly, on our own, we are quite the weaklings. At least I am!

So go ahead, ask God for the strength to love. He can’t deny us that request! Can He?

Him+Her Talk

In what ways God has taught you any of the qualities mentioned above?


Week 47

A Liar?

Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. 1 John 4:20

Wow! What powerful words! Of course, all the words in the Bible are powerful but when I think about this sentence, it really makes me wonder, “Am I a liar?” Corinthians tells us that we can move mountains, but if we do it without love, it means absolutely nothing.

So if I have even the tiniest amount of hate towards someone, God sees me as a liar. I can’t love God when I hate someone in my life. Ouch! I really need to be careful! Gods knows the heart and he can see any bit of hate towards another soul that He created.

We all have our shortcomings. And if I can’t love someone for who they are, then how are people supposed to love me? I have plenty of faults! Especially when it comes to my spouse. I promised to love him, no matter what happens and no matter what sins he commits.

Of course, a goal of a Christian is to become more like Jesus every day, but this gives us no reason to hate a brother or sister. God only allows love. And if your brother or sister has wronged you, WWJD?! Yes, He forgives. Always. Because that is what love is all about: forgiveness, sacrifice, and a heart like Jesus had.

Him+Her Weekly Goal

Is there anyone we hate? Ask God to help you love those people.



Week 46

We Are the Light

You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Matthew 5:14

Even though this saying that we Christians are a light to this world can be taken metaphorically, I can say that it can be taken literally as well. Maybe you noticed it, but people who love Jesus have something special about them. They have this glow or a light to their face, and just their whole being. I personally have noticed this phenomenon!

Going to public schools my whole life, my teachers never spoke to me about God, but there were those certain teachers who I felt were different and special in some way. They had this light to them. Years later after I wasn’t even in school anymore, I found out what made these certain teachers glow. They had Jesus!

Do you notice “a light” in certain people? Without a doubt they are glowing with the love of Jesus!

Him+Her Talk
Share if you have noticed people who are aglow with this bright light.


Week 45

A Simple Philosophy (That Can Be Hard to Live Out)

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33

I love weddings. They are always an inspiration to me. Even though you hear the same things over and over, it still never gets old for me. However, the way the pastor phrased Scriptures that are written for husbands and wives, really stood out in my mind. It is really quite simple, but makes a difference in the world if these Biblical principles are lived out by both husband and wife.

First, he asked the bride if she loved her groom. Her response was positive of course. And because of her love, the pastor replied, it is so important that she respects and obeys her husband.

The husband, on the other hand, has the responsibility to be pastor and leader of his family. If he does his job, then it will be so much easier for the wife to respect and obey her husband. A good husband won’t have to remind his wife to respect and obey him. She will want to do it anyway.

Quite simple. But can be so much harder in real life. Yet, these truths are the basis for a good, Christian family.

And what made me think even more is that it takes TWO! One can’t be pulling all the weight in him/herself to make it work. Scriptures don’t say “well, IF the wife is doing her duties, then the husband does his duties” or vice versa. But both work together to make a marriage that pleases God and each other.

Him+Her Weekly Goal
Pray each day that you can be a spouse that fulfills his/her role in the marriage.


Week 44


If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

Sometimes the most obvious things seem like such an enlightenment! I have that once in awhile. But sometimes those simple, obvious things are just so important, we wonder how we didn’t think about them earlier?

I love Communion. It really is a wonderful time to remember Jesus’ sacrifice for us. As well as purify ourselves. Since we’re on the topic of purification, I wanted to stop right there. That is where I had my Aha! moment.

As simple as this truth may be, I thought about it deeply right then and there at Communion. So here we are, sinful people. The beauty is that we can be cleansed through Jesus’ blood BUT only if we confess our sins. Not just a general confession, “Oh God, please forgive me my sins!”

God wants us to confess our sins specifically! That is the way to be purified and to be changed for the better!

Have pride? Don’t we all! Confess it. Let God change you!
Jealous? Maybe a little… Confess that as well!
Constantly complaining, not being thankful for what a God gave you?
Like gossiping too much? You better believe it that a God wants you to confess that one!
The list can go on endlessly of course.
We all have our lists needed to be confessed. But we get so comfortable with our sinful nature, we figure, why bother? God loves us anyway!

Yes, indeed! He sure does love us beyond measure. But God wants us to live a fruitful life! He wants to bless us in ways we can’t even imagine. Those blessings don’t always particularly include earthly things we wanted, but spiritual blessings!

Give it a shot! Confess those sins you’re holding on to, and be free, be changed!

Him+Her Talk
What’s something on your list you’re holding on to that you don’t want you confess?


Week 43


Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works. Titus 2:14

It really isn’t fun to lose money. Especially when you’re standing at the cash register with the numbers blaring in front of you, waiting to be paid. But all you find in your pocket is emptiness. And when you retrace your steps, the floor doesn’t contain the $20 bill either.

As you come back to the cash register, all out breath, and still with no money, you see the woman who was behind you signing something away. That’s right, groceries all paid. True story. I had this happen. And let me tell you, it almost brought tears to my eyes. In this wicked world we sometimes forget that people still do kind deeds. As I was leaving, saying “Thank you”, she replies, “You’re welcome. God bless!” Well of course she was a womanly faith!

Driving back home, I sat there thanking God for sending this person who was such a blessing! A thought crossed my mind, Jesus paid ALL my charges too, except instead of paying with money, He paid with His precious blood! Not only did He pay for my sins, but for every single person who existed, exists, or will exist on this planet. Amazing! That’s is all I could think at the moment and savor the feeling of feeling loved and blessed by our Almighty God!

But of course there’s the other side of things. Jesus did his part. Now, our part is to have faith in Him that He saved us through His blood. And show the world His endless love! I thank this generous lady for showing me this lesson through her kind deed. And I thank Jesus for what she did for me. My sins are PAID!

Him+Her Weekly Goal
Find a way to do a good deed for your spouse or even for a stranger. Show them God’s love.


Week 42

Through the Storm

Paul stood up before them and said: “Men, you should have taken my advice not to sail from Crete; then you would have spared yourselves this damage and loss. Acts 27:21

The more I read about Paul in Acts, the more amazed I am with how close he was to God. The Holy Spirit guided him through every step of the way. Even when a storm arises, and everyone on the ship loses hope in being saved, Paul assures them everything will be ok. They will suffer loss, but not any human lives. They will however, lose the ship.

This story from Acts 27 made me correlate us and God. Many times, we choose not to listen to Him, just like the sailors did not listen to Paul. As a consequence, we experience loss and much heartache. Only then we realize, “I shouldn’t have done things my way. I should have listened to what God says in His word and through the Holy Spirit.”

The best part is though is that God will help us through any storm, regardless. He sure helped Paul and the crew. Even though we make many mistakes, God is with us, by our side. He is ready to give us comfort in any storm of our lives, whether it is a mild storm wind or a level five hurricane.

(Want to read the full story, turn to Acts, chapter 27.)

Him+Her Talk

When was a time you disobeyed God and then experienced major heartache or a big loss?